Falling Apart



As many of you have inquired and maybe guessed, things around here are falling apart.  My whole world has come to a screeching halt and breathing, just simple breathing has been hard.  About 3 weeks ago we received the devastating news that the love of my life, my best friend, my husband, Larry has stage 4 stomach cancer.  Life as we knew it is over and we are reeling with decisions and uncertainty.  We remain positive and I ask for your prayers, good thoughts and respect for my need to take a break from life right now.  I will post from time to time because I think it will be a good distraction.  I will always love gardens, interiors and fashion 😊.

My dear friend Elizabeth, the vintage contessa, will be running a style profile towards the end of the month.  I'm so flattered to be part of her style series.  She asked me months ago and I answered her questions so you will be able to click over there when she publishes it. 

I love you all and thank you so much for your support over the years.  You are all the very BEST readers anybody could ever ask for.  xo

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  1. Dear Janet, My heart is broken for you and your husband. You are in my thoughts and will remain in my prayers. Blessings to you for strength.xoxo, Susie

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  2. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Linda

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  3. Janet I'm so sorry and my heart is breaking right now thinking of you and dear Larry. He is such a fine man and I will send my good thoughts his way, and to you too. Please take care of yourself and each other my friend.
    I've been thinking of you the last few days, I was going to email you this week to see how you were doing.
    I hope he is getting the very best care right now. Love to you xxx

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  4. Thinking of you. Praying even though I don’t pray. Hoping, hoping, hoping that you both get through this. You are one of the kindest bloggers I read so I just don’t get why life has to be so sad. Strength to you both! Nancy from NYC.

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  5. I, too, am facing medical issues with my husband who has just returned home after six-plus weeks in a hospital and assisted living facility. Prayers for healing, peace, wisdom, and discernment for Larry, you, your family, and the doctors.
    Charlene H

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  6. Janet, what a blow, not only to you and your family, but to your blogosphere family as well. I’ll be thinking of you every day and sending love and support. Allegra

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  7. Dear Janet,i dont know what to say.The warmest prayers for your husband and you....

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  8. Dear Janet, I am so sorry to hear this devastating news. I'm sending my warmest thoughts and prayers to Larry, you and your family.

    /Bea

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  9. I knew that something had to be terribly wrong. now I know, my heart goes out to you and your family. you will be in my thoughts and if prayer can help certainly I will be sending them your way. so sorry
    Darby

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  10. I am so very, very sorry, Janet. I will be thinking of you and hope for the best possible outcome. Love and prayers to you all.

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  11. Dear Janet,
    I am so sorry to hear this. Sending you love at this difficult time.

    Mar

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  12. G*dspeed. Glad you shared. How else to know to pray for you, your husband & family.

    Garden & Be Well, XO T

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  13. Oh Janet I am so sorry. I have felt how close you and Larry are, in reading this blog. And you've been through a lot in your family. Of course the blog pales to nothing in this light, and I only hope we might sometimes offer comfort or distraction. All good thoughts for you and your beloved husband.

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  14. I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you and Larry. Please do whatever is most helpful for both of you at this time.

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  15. So sorry to hear that you've had such devastating news. Thinking about you at this difficult time.

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  16. I am so sorry to hear this. Hoping for strength for you both and will be holding good thoughts for you and your love.

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  17. Dear lady-I am so very sorry to hear this news. I will be thinking of you and yours. With love from Tennessee.

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  18. Janet- this saddens me so much. I am so very sorry. I will be thinking of you and your beloved Larry and sending lots of prayers and positive thoughts your way.

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  19. So very very sorry to learn this. Sending prayers and positive energy your way, each and every day. May God be with you both!

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  20. Janet, prayers and healing thoughts being sent your way. Know that if you decide to blog again you will be supported. Paula

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  21. Love to you both. Hang in there.

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  22. Praying for you my friend. I am sorry to hear the news, but I want to encourage you. My dad had stage 4 lymphoma cancer 15 years ago. He is still with us today, healthier than ever and loving life. May God draw you near to him during this difficult time and give you peace, strength and rest. I will be praying for you. xx Diana Elizabeth

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  23. All all the love and peace I can possibly wish for you. So saddened to hear this, and words cannot convey how deeply moved you have made me, a friend from afar.

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  24. Dear Janet,
    Take strength in knowing we all care deeply for you and your beloved.

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  25. Dear Janet, so sad to hear this. Love, positive thoughts and prayers from Australia. Paula x

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  26. Praying for God's blessing, comfort, and strength for both of you.

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  27. I’m so sorry to hear of your dear husband’s illness. It is clear from my years of reading that you truly cherish each other. Wishing you both the strength to pull through this and many happy days beyond this struggle. Though I’ve never commented, your words, images and kindness have been a balm in this world turned upside down.
    Margo

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  28. Dear Janet - So very sorry to hear you and your family are facing this. Wishing you peace and strength as you navigate these choppy waters. Take good care...xo

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  29. Dearest Janet, Sending my most heartfelt thoughts and love to you, Larry, and your family.

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  30. Praying for healing for Larry and strength and peace for you and your family. Love and prayers, Kim

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  31. this is a shock.
    but I also know this. everything in me would say fight.
    fear can take you down. it puts out wrong signals for survival. and re-read Diana Elizabeth's wonderful words above.
    I take heart in Churchill's words... "never give up. we will never never never give up."
    they know now that nutrition plays a key role and vegan diets are that key. research all you can. it's out there darling girl. my heart to yours. always. XO

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  32. Praying for strength for you and your husband!!

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  33. All my love, thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

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  34. I’m so very sorry you and your Larry are facing this battle. I am praying for you both.

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  36. Oh my! I am so sorry, Janet. Larry, you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Sincerely, Debra from SENC

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  37. I am so sorry. Things like this put life in perspective don’t they. I’ll be praying for you, I believe in miracles and have seen them in my own life. Sending you love and healing 🙏🏻❤️🦋

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  38. Thank you for sharing this very precious time in your beloved and your life. I am praying for you both through this ❤ comfort..healing..strength.

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  39. Oh, dear Janet, I am so, so sorry to hear this. Life is so unfair sometimes, especially when you hear of something like this happening to a family like yours. I wish you and Larry all the very best as you face this difficult time together and with your family.

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  40. My dear Janet, that is devastating news. Life can be so cruel. I will pray for you and your husband. Christa

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  41. There are no words. None.
    Wishing you, Larry, and your family some measure of peace in your hearts as you deal with this awful news. Namaste.

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  42. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers, dear Janet. Healing, strength, peace, and love to you all. Post when you feel able, share what you want, and know that you have much support here on your blog.

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  43. I've enjoyed your blog over the years. I am so sorry. You and your husband are in my thoughts.
    take care,
    Mel

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  44. Just heartbreaking. Hope you find some comfort from the many good thoughts and prayers from your readers. Please take care.

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  45. Oh, Janet, this breaks my heart. Your life orientation of simplicity and compassion have brought so much to me, and of course to so many over the years; allowing us to share in your life has been such a generous and inspiring thing to do, thank you. I add my love, prayers and hope for Larry, for you, and for all who love you both.

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  46. Oh, Janet. I don't know what to say. You've given me so much without even knowing it, so now I send you, Larry, and your family all of my very best wishes for strength and healing and miracles.

    Becky

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  47. I am so sorry. You certainly have my prayers, good thoughts, and respect, just as you ask. I have followed your blog for years and have treasured, valued and learned so much from your perspective and your thoughts. I have just navigated a year of surgery, chemo and radiation for my adult daughter (breast cancer), and prior to that, the same for my husband (colon cancer). Please be very kind to yourself as you chart these new, unknown waters. I hope that knowing how many of us will be thinking of you, praying for you, and wishing you well will be a source of strength.

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  48. Oh Janet what horrible news. I feel terrible for Larry, you and your family. You will be in my prayers continually. There’s so many of us out here sending up prayers for health and peace for all of you.
    Best,
    Kathy
    Kacarr Instagram

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  49. You and your husband will be in my prayers. Madeline

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  50. Two years ago my lovely daughter was diagnosed with lymphoma. I had just lost my husband two years before so I was ready to throw in the towel. Long story short she endured radiation, chemo, and finally qualified for the stem cell transplant procedure at Stanford Hospital & Research Center in Palo Alto. One year hence, and she's back at work, bought herself a new car, and recently signed up for an art class. She's doing well. Hugs and the same good thoughts for your beloved Larry.

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  51. You have let us into your world through your blog; now you have permitted us to know the valley you and your husband (Larry) are walking through. Thoughts and prayers from several readers; we feel as if we know you via the words you write and the pictures you post. Please keep your "Blog Family" current on life in your household; writing is the best means in which to pour out your feelings, thoughts, anger, and grasp for understanding. Your family is going through a storm; prayers cover you and Larry as the wind has been knocked out of your sails. One day at a time. Hugs and Prayers.

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  52. I am so sorry to read this shocking and devastating news. Thoughts, prayers and hugs to you and your family.

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  53. Prayers for you both; I will be thinking of you and sending you strength...God Bless you!!

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  54. Words cannot express how sorry I am to hear this news about your dear husband. I know the two of you must be feeling lost at the moment, but please know that I will keep you in my daily thoughts.

    Hugs to your family!



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  55. Dearest Janet,

    I was so sorry to read of your devastating news. Hearing it the first time sends your life in a tailspin. A year ago this past December, I was diagnosed with breast cancer for the second time. (I was first diagnosed 17 years ago, so I thought I was home free!) Of course, this time treatment was much more aggressive. Janet, I want you to have hope. There is so much that can be done for cancer treatment these days. I have talked to people in the cancer center this past year who have such remarkable and encouraging stories to share.

    For me, my personal faith in Jesus is what has kept me going. It's amazing how He has given me peace in all circumstances and throughout treatments and surgeries. Our lives are truly in God's hands, and He cares about us all and Larry deeply. I will pray that God will lead you to the best, the most knowledgeable, and the most compassionate medical staff out there. I will pray for healing and comfort in this hard time.

    "Fear not for I am with you. Be not dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you. I will uphold you with my victorious right hand." Isaiah 41:10

    xx

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    1. I love this scripture Isabella & have claimed it many times in my life. Beautiful words & so very true.

      Anita ~ the cabin on the creek

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    2. Janet,
      I, too, would like to echo what Isabelle said so well. I am so sorry and saddened to read of your news. I will pray for healing and strength amidst the devastation of cancer.
      Kathy

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  56. Oh my, Janet, I am feeling so badly for you. I will pray for Larry's health, for strength for both of you, for loving friends and family to help carry you both through this journey. I have so enjoyed your lovely home and garden, but I know this is not what is important to you now. God bless.

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  57. Janet, Be brave and fierce like Ellie (have some decorum).... we're all behind you.

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  58. I don't comment much on your blog, but I just saw this news and want to tell you how sorry I am. There are no other words when you read/hear devastating news. Sending you much love, hope, and peace of mind. xoxo

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  59. Janet,
    Medicine has come so far where cancer is concerned. You are wise to stay positive. I will hold good thoughts for you and Larry.
    xo,
    Karen

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  60. You and Larry will be in my prayers.

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  61. Praying for Larry and the doctors guidance with the best treatment possible. I pray he endures the treatments without too many side effects and is made well and healthy again. I pray for you Janet to have the strength to get through the fear of this situation and face each day as strong as possible. Have faith in the dear Lord. He will be your comfort in the days to come. And we have good doctors and medicines now to treat these awful diseases. I have went through all this with both my parents and it is amazing how strong we can be when we have no choice. Love and hugs ♥

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  62. I hope all of these comforting comments will lift your heart and spirit. Nothing prepares us for what has happened to your husband and yourself. Just know we do care and are sending healing thoughts his way.

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  63. Oh Janet my heart goes out to you. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Be strong.

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  64. Dear Janet and Larry
    So deeply sorry to hear this news. Wishing you hope and strength.
    Love, Spud

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  65. I am so sorry that you are facing this challenge. I will pray for peace for you both, wisdom for the doctors and strength for the days.

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  66. Prayers for Larry, you and the rest of your family and friends. I cannot even begin to imagine. I've long admired your style, grace and kindness. May the coming days be blessed and full of good times together.

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  67. Oh, Janet, I'm so saddened at this news, so sorry to hear. Stay positive. Keep fear away. The power of prayer is so real, so strong, and truly delivers healing energy. What an amazing cyber community there is here for you. Just know how loved you and your dear husband and family are! xo Shelley

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  68. Dear Janet, I haven't checked in on your blog in a long time, and have done so only to read this incredibly devastating news. I send you much love and strength, and will be thinking of you all often. Heidi xx

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  69. So very sorry to hear this. Hugs to you and your sweet Larry.
    Kay

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  70. Dear Korff Family,
    Thinking of you during this painful time. Wishing you peace, and hoping that you are all together to lift each other up.

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  71. Sending love and prayers that this monster of an illness can be beaten. May the love of family and friends surround you and strengthen you both. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers. Sending love to you. M of Bruno and Lily on IG

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  72. I just don't have the words to express how sorry I am to hear this news Janet. I began praying for you & Larry the moment I read your post. The God I believe in knows you both intimately & loves you. I pray He will provide for your every need.

    Anita ~ the cabin on the creek

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  73. I am sending positive thoughts your way XO

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  74. I so love your blog and your posts are always the highlight of my day. I wish you and your family the very best and will be praying for you. Please letus hear from you from time to time. XO

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  75. Dr. Paul Sugarbaker. Washington DC. Please google him. My best to you and your husband.

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  76. MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU JANET.
    ANYTHING I CAN DO for YOU I will BE THERE if it means flying down to GROCERY SHOP !!!
    I mean it!
    I will let you know when WE AIR as soon as CINDY gets back to ME!
    She is MY BOSS when it comes to AGELESS STYLE POST!
    Did I tell you SHE wanted to do YOU this month!!!!!!!!!!??
    I told her I NAILED YOU BACK in NOVEMBER if not before!!!!!!!
    YOU ARE A HOT CHICK!!!!!!!
    Be there for HIM we will ALWAYS BE HERE!
    XOXO

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  77. I'm so sorry. You're on my prayer list, for sure! Take care of yourself and please check in with us when you feel up to it! We'll all miss you! XO


    Renee in Northern California

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  78. I am so very sorry to read this news. Please know that I will keep you & your dear husband in my thoughts & prayers. Miracles do happen & I hope there is one out there for both of you. We have had friends & family diagnosed with Stage 4 & they are still with us. I do not post often since I can't seem to do so with my own account so am posting through my husband's! Your blog has been such an inspiration of gentleness, kindness & great style. I hope the beautiful spirit that you have always shown in your posts will carry you through. I will be sending loving, healing thoughts to surround both of you in your dear Gardener's Cottage. With love, Kathy Bunge

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  79. Oh my Janet. I'm so sorry. I will send good thought and prayers your way.

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  80. Love, hugs and prayers to you and your beautiful family. xoxo Jackie

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  81. Sending prayers and positive thoughts for you,your husband and family.

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  82. Sending thoughts and prayers for you dear Janet and Larry.
    I f***ing hate cancer!

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  83. I am so sorry, Janet. Many prayers for you and Larry.

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  84. Janet, I am so very sorry to hear the news about Larry. When my daughter was 5, she was diagnosed with Stage 4 liver cancer and the oncologist told me she'd never make it. She's now 33. Miracles happen every day. I know it's hard but I think a positive attitude can work wonders. Keeping you, Larry and your family in my prayers. Take good care of yourself.

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  85. DearJanet,
    I am so sorry to hear this. I will remember you and your dear husband in my prayers.
    suburbanmom2

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  86. Oh dear Janet...I wondered why you had been off line for so long...
    My thoughts go out to you all at this time, take heart and be strong for Larry. He will need your love and support more now than ever before. I know how scared you must feel...when my husband had cancer it was really tough staying positive but somehow we managed. The staff at the cancer clinic are trained to help and there are a myriad of individuals there to help you both as you go through the various stages of treatment. Take advantage of those who are willing to support you both...
    Sending positive and healing thoughts your way.

    Hugs,
    Leslie
    XO

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  87. Are there words that are adequate? Resounding No. Just know that your followers are holding you in our hearts and you have a gentle place to fall. We will catch you. I follow another blog, Lynne Knowlton, who's husband is in a similar battle. She may have wisdom and a guiding hand for you. Be well and know that we cradle and support you. x0x-holly

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  88. Dear Lord, I am so sorry Janet and sending prayers you way. Please know you are loved by many and we all offer our love and strength.

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  89. I absolutely HATE cancer and am so sad to read this post. My heart aches for you and your beloved Larry. But this I know, one can rise to the most difficult of challenges. You will find strengths and courage you never knew that you had. I will pray for you and Larry. I personally know that my prayers and the those of many others will be felt by you. My husband has survived two pulmonary embolisms, stage 4 throat cancer and now he has been diagnosed with Alzheimers.... a new challenge. It is only by the Grace of God and with the love, support and prayers of so many that we have faced and will continue to face life's trials and challenges. Your life and focus have now changed and you need to use your resources and energy in the most productive and positive way for you and Larry. Janet you are an amazing woman and you can do really hard things....may you feel the love, support and prayers of those who love you. May the doctors be inspired in their care for Larry. We, your blog friends and followers, will be here for you when needed. God bless both you and your family.

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  90. Janet- sending positive thoughts and prayers for strength to your Gardener's Cottage......sending you and Larry wishes of kindness and love to give you comfort and support during this time. Bridget

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  91. So sorry to hear about your dear husband. Prayers to you both and to your family. Debby

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  92. Dear Janet, I am keeping you and Larry in my prayers.

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  93. Dear Janet
    Sending you and Larry loads of positive vibes ❤️

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  94. So very sorry to hear about Larry - heartfelt thoughts and prayers to you.

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  95. Im so very sorry.Sending buckets of love to you both from the UK xxxx

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  96. Wishing you both strength and calm from Australia.

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  97. I have no words. Sending love.

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  98. Much love and prayers

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  99. I am so sorry to read the difficult news about your husband. Please know that even those of us who only know you through this page care deeply about both of you. Love and light to your family.

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  100. Sending lots of love and good wishes from Virginia.
    Angela

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  101. Janet,
    I am so so sorry to read this! You and Larry are in my prayers and thoughts. Sending you lots of love!
    xo
    Annie

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  102. Sending good thoughts and love to you and Larry.
    Laura

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  103. Close your eyes and feel the love and support that's coming your way from all over the world, via those of us who follow along and care about you.

    With love,
    Connie

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  104. My heart sank when I read this post title. I care very, very much. We all care, and we are all here to lift you up.

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  105. I'm so very sorry to hear this news. May God grant you both peace, comfort and strength in the midst.

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  106. Oh Janet. I’m shocked and devastated to read this news. Of course I don’t know how you’re feeling or what you’re thinking but I can’t help but imagine the rage you must have gone through or going through at this. How does this happen to someone so healthy? I guess the only thing I’m getting at is to remember you’re entitled to your feelings. I do feel compelled to tell you that my grandfather came out of stage IV pancreatic cancer when he was 83 years old. The news was so bleak and he was so old that no one even considered the possibility that he could survive. But for some reason he was blessed with a miracle and within a year his scans showed not even a hint that there had been cancer. I had little faith in my life at that time but how does one argue with that? Sending you my love, thoughts, prayers. Perhaps this is the battle your natural tenacity has been gearing up for your whole life. I believe in you.

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  107. Janet, I am so sorry to hear this news. Your house and life have been an inspiration to me! I will pray for peace, comfort and strength as you walk this journey.

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  108. Oh f--k - this was the last news I would hope to hear from you, Janet.
    Take any offers of help you need - wishing you and Larry moments of peace in all of this chaos. You are so loved!

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  109. Janet, my heart goes out to you and I am so grateful to you for all the years of beauty and goodness received from your inspiring blog. Four years ago I was diagnosed with advanced cervical cancer and given 6 months to live. I investigated alternative treatments, diet, spiritual work, etc. I implemented these along with SOME of the traditional treatments, and have been cancer free since, in fact my cancer cleared up in record time. I've collected stories of remarkable healings derived from opening to the Love that we are and also happy and joyous distractions. I'm writing a book about it and have given talks. If you are interested in these, let me know and I can send some of this to you by email. My thoughts and prayers are with you and I KNOW miracles happen daily. Stay positive and expect the best. All my love, Janice - jani.collins@gmail.com

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  110. I am so so sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. I echo many other readers' comments and will pray for peace, comfort and strength for you and your family.

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  111. Sending you and your family thoughts of hope and strength.

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  112. Dear Janet,

    I echo the sentiments of all your loyal blog followers, being one myself. You lead a beautiful life and are blessed to have a husband you love so deeply. Stay strong.
    Sending love,
    Meg

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  113. I have lived in that moment of time....14 months ago. My love is still here right beside me.
    Just keep breathing...and plant Periwinkle in your garden.
    All the best to you both.

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  114. Janet, my heart goes out to you and Larry. Keeping you in my thoughts and wishing the best for you and your family.

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  115. I have no words, but I will be praying.

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  116. Janet I am so very sorry. Thinking of you during this difficult time. Prayers for strength and love.

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  117. Nooooooo Janet my heart just sank and I was devastated to hear that about Larry. Life can just change in an instant. I will be keeping you both in my thoughts and praying that he beats this. I am sure it is difficult to stay positive, but I have heard those individuals have a better outcome.

    Linda
    xoxoxo

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  118. Janet, my heartfelt, healing thoughts to both you and Larry at this difficult time. As a cancer survivor, I know what it is to be told, "You have cancer." Michael Douglas, the actor, was diagnosed with Stage IV cancer in 2010 and he's still with us. Cancer likes to make its own rules. I will never understand why bad things happen to good people. You are our friend, Janet. Talk to your readers when you need to. Until then and always, you have my every prayer.

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  119. My husband suffered a catastrophic event almost a year ago, so I know what you mean when you say it's difficult to even breathe. My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time and I hope your hubby kicks this disease and thrives in spite of it. Take care of yourself, too. Sending you a big hug.
    Vickie

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  120. My heart aches for you and Larry, Janet. I wish you the best emotional and medical support you both need right now. With love, Ardith

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  121. In the short time I have read your blog, your words have inspired, brought a chuckle, intrigued, taught
    Now, I dig deep for what I might say to you to ease your fear, help you to catch your breath . . .
    that you shared this crushing news is an Important first step I think. When our sweet daughter was diagnosed with stage four metastatic breast cancer we were amazed by how much it helped simply for our wise friends to "know." Each approached us and our girl uniquely, some with head-on questions, others were magnificent listeners, providers of meals, unexpected diversions . . . all lent love, strength, positivity, and normalcy
    You and I never have met and likely never will still I can say that I love you and from the opposite coast of this wide country am there for you.

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  122. All my best wishes to you and your husband.I hope that everything goes well. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

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  123. Prayers being sent up for you and Larry. Hugs...

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  124. You have my prayers and my love and my thoughts.
    Over the years, through your blog, you have given me so much inspiration, motivation and good old fashioned common sense. Thank you. Good luck and God bless X

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  125. Dear Janet, so sorry to hear your devastating news. Just know that our thoughts and prayers are with you, you will find the strength to face each day, and share what you can while you can with your beloved Larry xxx

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  126. Janet, praying for strength as you and Larry confront this difficult time in your lives. May God direct you to the best treatment for Larry. Hugs and ❤️

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  127. So very sorry to hear the news. Thinking of you and Larry. Love and prayers to
    you both. God Bless you and your family.

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  129. Sending so much love and healing prayers to you, Larry and your family...xoo k

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  130. Sending you and your family caring thoughts for your dear husband Larry.
    BarbG

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  131. Will pray for you and Larry. You will be held up by many.

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  132. I am adding you and, Larry to my daily prayers. I don't want to add any stress to your and, Larry's decisions at this time. Yet, I feel compelled to share these two blogs. ( chrisbeatcancer.com ) and, ( (thetruthaboutcancer.com)
    My daughter's FIL was dx with cancer almost 5 years ago. He has chosen the natural route. He is improving with every check up. I don't know his stage but, I know it was in several organs and, in his hip. He also had a softball size hard mass on his shoulder that was removed surgically. The only place that remains is the place in his hip. The last I heard it is getting smaller. He just this year did agree to a non-chemo, non-radiation drug trial. The drug is being trailed as an immune system booster. This appears to be shrinking the last of the cancer. We are excited. Through these years he has remained happy and, active.

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  133. Dear Janet,

    I am so very sorry for you and Larry. I just lost my Father, and we went through Stage 4 lung cancer treatments with him. I adore your posts and your genuine kindness so very much. I am sending positive thoughts your way. This is so difficult and unfair. Thinking of you both. Julia

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  134. Oh man Janet - I sure did not expect to read this! Prayers and positive thoughts for you and your Larry. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us! Although we are only acquainted on this Blog and Instagram, I do feel like I kinda know you and wish there was more I could do than send a hug through the interwebs. You and your family will be in my thoughts xo

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  135. I am so very sorry to read this. I had noticed that you haven't posted in a while. You are always so positive and look for joy in the smallest details. I hope that you are able to find all of the positives in life as you and your husband take this part of your journey together. I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.

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  136. Oh Janet, I am at a loss for words. Sending prayers, love and Reiki for peace and healing.

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  137. Janet I neglected to tell you on my comment earlier that my son-in-law's mom had Stage 4 breast cancer over 8 years ago. She had to endure surgery and rounds of chemo. She has had no reoccurrence. So there is hope! :) You and Larry have been on my mind all day. Cancer sucks.

    Linda

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  138. Dear Janet,
    I have been reading you blog for some time, but have never commented... I deeply admire the simplicity, brevity, and authenticity that shines through all your posts. Your voice is honest and direct, and in a world filled with noise, it is like a clarion call. However, when I read the title of this post and saw the edges of the black background, it was (very) hard to continue reading... sending all best, wonderful, health-filled prayers for his complete recovery. Stay strong (and fierce--like Ellie)xo DA Squires

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  139. Enfolding you and Larry in prayer, Janet.

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  140. Janet,
    I'd so hoped you weren't blogging because of good things.
    I am so sorry to hear this news. I wish you all the best outcomes in these unfortunate circumstances.
    Healing intentions and love.

    Cara

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  141. Dear Janet, I’ve been a reader of your blog for a few years...I’m so, so sorry to hear this news, and my heart aches for you. I will be praying for your husband - that God will heal him and give you both a sense of peace as you take this journey. Praying for successful treatment and strength for you both. Take good care...

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  142. Oh Janet. Although you don't know me and I only know you from reading your blog these past many years, reading your post earlier today was like a hit in the gut. I cannot imagine what you have been and are going through. I am so sorry. I wish there was something, anything, I could do to help you and Larry.

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  143. I have followed your blog for years and this news this morning was such a shock. Your grace and kindness and sense of style have inspired me endlessly. I have read through all the comments and am blown away by the number of readers sending love and prayers to you and your husband Larry. And yet it is no great surprise. You have touched all our lives. I add my own love and prayers to all the rest. You did not have to share this news, but I admire your courage for doing so. May you and Larry be heartened and strengthened. Sending all good things. Violet.

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  144. I'm so sorry to read this. I just said a prayer for you and your husband.

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  145. That takes my breath away, and I don't even know either of you. I'm so sorry about this horrible news. You two are an inspiration to me. Just from photos and from your writing, it's obvious that you're an incredible pair and that you're lucky to have found each other. I always hoped I'd find someone who was as strong of a match for myself. I admire you both. And I'll keep you both in my thoughts. Love to you both...

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  146. That is heartbreaking news, Janet. I have loved everything you have shared on your blog for the 5 years that I have been reading it and I have so much respect and admiration for you and Larry. I wish good and happy moments for you two as you cope with this devastating news. I will be praying for you both. With love, Maureen

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  147. mistletoe shots, flax seed puree
    love and rest

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  148. I've been reading your blog for year or so but I don't think I have ever commented. I am so, so very sorry. You will both be in my prayers. - Maggie

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  149. Sending love and light to you both..

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  150. Wishing you comfort and strength. I will keep you both in my prayers. I've been a reader of your blog for a few years, and I want to thank you for sharing all you have on your blog. You are a great inspiration in fashion, family, and love. ��
    -Melissa

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  151. Oh my dearest Janet, I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers go out to Larry and to you.
    Having a mantra and a haven helped me through when my husband was very ill a few years ago. Putting my faith and trust in those treating him, my mantra. Discovering the world of blogs, my saving haven.
    Posting occasionally may give you the haven you need. You will find what it takes to allow yourself to b r e a t h e, I know. My love goes out to you both. XX.

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  152. So sorry for you and Larry. Praying for you. XXO, Robin

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  153. Yours is the only Blog I still follow...I knew something was up and checked in again today....I will think of you and yours often and hope for only a good outcome. Blessings to your family x

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  154. {{{ embracing you and yours gently }}}
    in thought, close to heart, and in prayer.

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  155. Dear Janet, this is awful! Sending you lots of love and positive vibes.
    Tanja
    xx

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  156. I just gasped out loud as I read your post...so sorry to hear this news. Cancer treatment has advanced hugely and while it's never the news you want to hear there is help and hope! As Mr. Rogers said about bad news that threatened to disrupt one's life, think of all the helpers. There are so many people out there to help you through this journey. Wishing the best for you and your husband, and take the best care of yourself that you can muster!

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  157. I'm so sorry, Janet. You and Larry are in my thoughts and prayers. I wish you the best.

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  158. Big hugs and even bigger prayers! ♥

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  159. Dear Janet, All our prayers are with you, Larry and your family on this difficult journey. Meg

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  160. Breathing right alongside you and sending love and prayers for healing. Sam

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  161. I will be thinking of you. Take good care of BOTH of you.

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  162. Prayers for you and your husband. And hugs for you! Your "job" right now is to be with him, love him and do whatever you can for him. Martha - lflinderhof.com

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  163. Oh my dear Janet, as others have said , there are no words. Sending you lots of love xx

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  164. You are in thoughts and prayers - I have followed you for yrs and in reading this my heart breaks for you and Larry - your strength will get you through this and I wish Larry the best in his journey.

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  165. So terribly sorry to hear this. Please take care of yourself during this time as you care for Larry. And may I suggest Michel Gregor, M.D.? His book How Not To Die and his website nutritionfacts.org is extremely helpful. (I have leukemia). Much love to you both.

    Wendy

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  166. My heart to yours. May you and Larry be wrapped in love, always.
    Celeste

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  167. Oh sh*t! My sincere condolences, prayers and positive thoughts go out to you and Larry during this time. Don't worry about us (your blog readers) ... we'll be fine ... just thinking often of you with love and sending you both positive energy. Chin up, my girl, and keep going. Draw close to each other, and thank God for every day.

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  168. Janet, there are no words. I am so very sorry. My prayers,and thoughts are with you. So many here expressing support and love for you and Larry and I add my voice to theirs. I believe in prayer and the comfort and peace it can bring.
    With love and hope,
    Catt-in-Kentucky

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  169. I'm so sorry Janet. Sending positive thoughts.

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  170. He will cover you with his feathers and under his wings you will find refuge. Sending love and prayers

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  171. So very sorry to hear this Janet. Hope and prayers for you and Larry.

    Laura

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  172. May God bless you and your family, Janet. Prayers abound.

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  173. Blessings to you and your family.

    Kelly

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  174. Dear dear Janet - you’ve given us so much and now it’s time for us to be there for you. Please be gentle with yourself and if you’d like to vent - no matter about what - I won’t mind and I’m sure all your other follower friends won’t mind either. Try to keep repeating “ EGBOK” - Everything’s Going to Be OK. When I light my candles at night I’ll be lighting one for both you and your Larry. Much love Pam PS : you might like to see The Medical Medium on Instagram.

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  175. I have been where you are. My heart breaks for you both. Praying God will give you strength and a happier ending than I got. However I must say that those last months were some of our most beautiful. Big hugs and lots of prayers.

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  176. I will be praying for you and your family each day. May God hold you close. You are so very loved.
    -Suzanne in Illinois

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  177. Janet, Prayers for you and your Larry. ~Miranda

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  178. Dear Janet, You and Larry will be in my prayers. I’m so sorry you have to experience this!

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  179. Janet, so sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you and sending love and hugs your way xx

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  180. I am so sorry to hear this news. Miracles happen every day and I will be sending all the positive energy and prayers I can that you and Larry get through this stronger than ever.
    Deb

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  181. I'm so sorry Janet💔 Prayers for both of you. 🙏

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  182. Sending thoughts, prayers, and hope to you and Larry.

    Cindy

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    1. MChristine BredenKoetterMarch 24, 2018 at 6:45 PM

      Positive thoughts and prayers for you and your family - don't give your blog a second thought we will be here when time allows you to post again - it is vital you irect all your family to your husband and family - stay strong

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  183. What devastating news. I am so sorry. You and Larry are in my prayers. I work at an academic medical center (though I am not a clinician) which is how I know of a procedure for peritoneal cancers called HIPEC. If your physician hasn't mentioned it, you may want to ask and see if Larry would be a candidate. I will pray for a good outcome. Please know that so many are thinking of you!
    Claudia

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  184. I am so so sorry! I can’t imagine what you and Larry and the family have been going through! Praying for wisdom, comfort and miracles!

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  185. I knew something was wrong when you didn't post for so long, but never imagined this. You are both in my prayers daily for comfort, strength and healing. Connie

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  186. What a shocking thing for Larry and you. Sending you heartfelt, industrial-strength vibes and best wishes for now and the times ahead.

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  187. I am so sorry Larry is sick. You will be in my thoughts and I am hoping for a favorable outcome.
    Karen L.

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  188. I am so sorry to hear this news. You have been such an inspiration to me, and I hope that you and Larry will have a good outcome. Praying for you.

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  189. For sure a wifes worst fear. I will be praying for both of you.

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  190. I am so sorry to hear your news. I've followed your blog for a few years, never commenting but always enjoying your wonderful outlook on life. In fact whenever I had a tough day I would look at your blog as a way to cheer myself up. I thank you for doing that for me many many times.
    I will send all the positive energy and good thoughts your way during this very difficult time for you and your family.

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  191. I'm so sorry, Janet. Thinking of you and your Husband and sending love and prayers.

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  192. I send along deepest wishes, thoughts and strength, balance and energy to you both. Hold On and Just Breathe. Spend time as needed in your garden. Cry. Laugh. And Know that We The Readers Cherish You.

    Janet at Rosemary Cottage

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  193. Janet, I am so very sorry to hear about this. Please know you and Larry are in my thoughts and prayers. Don't forget to take care of yourself so you can be strong for Larry. Nan

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